“Do I talk to myself?” – me
“Why yes, of course.” – also me.
As Martin LaMonica said:
Through language we have built civilisations, developed science and medicine, literature and philosophy. We do not have to learn everything from personal experience, because through language we can learn from the experience of others. Language makes us human, and it’s encoded in our DNA.
I have dear friends who share with me the happenings of their day, the interesting things they know, and their opinions about both. Lately I’ve noticed I don’t generally have a lot to say, and feel like their realities are slowly becoming mine quite by accident.
I came across the sensation caused by this tweet where many people talk about a phenomenon named “Internal Narrative”. It’s about how some people have a constant stream of dialogue in their heads, and some don’t. Well, I don’t. I think very conceptually and visually, but I’m starting to feel that an actual verbal narrative has advantages to mental health.
I do have some friends who are conceptual thinkers too, and conversations with them are refreshingly non-concrete. Many of my nearest and dearest, though, often converse about concrete matters which just don’t connect to my conceptual inner dialogue and so I find I do less of the talking, and more of the listening, sometimes feeling overlooked and unimportant because of it.
I think we each need to share what matters to us with others, and to meditate on where we’re going, how we’re getting there, and how far we’ve come. I think it’s important for me to try and frame my story more verbally in order to enjoy the journey more fully, and in order to share it with others and aid connection.
Social media helps this a little, because there we tell our stories, and get feedback about them, while recording bits of our lives for later reflection. I’m going to try typing in actual sentences, and maybe even longhand writing in order to see if it helps me better. That way I can process things I wouldn’t ordinarily share, and develop a narrative about my life that I can share selectively.
Do you keep a journal of any kind?